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With This Signs Your Relationship Lacks Emotional Intimacy

When you think of intimacy in a relationship, it’s possible that your thoughts jump first to the physical. But building emotional intimacy is, without a doubt, equally important. When partners lack emotional intimacy, it can be difficult to empathize with each other and build trust. Luckily, if you’re unsure whether you’re there yet, relationship experts can help you look for signs.

Emotional Intimacy is a skill, but it eventually becomes a way of being in a relationship. “I would describe emotional intimacy as the experience of being emotionally  connected and in tune with our partners,” Lisa Olivera, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, tells Bustle. “It involves a level of openness and vulnerability from both people, and increases the overall sense of closeness we feel with our partners in day-to-day life.” Without emotional intimacy, it can be hard for couples to weather the storms of life together.

“Emotional intimacy is ultimately the glue that holds a relationship together, after the initial excitement fizzles
” health and wellness coach Caleb Backe tells Bustle. “Couples who are emotionally intimate can overcome conflict more easily because they understand each other better and are able to communicate their feelings to each other.” Luckily, there are ways to build emotional intimacy if you haven’t quite tapped into it yet. First, you need to check in on your relationship.

Here are eight signs your relationship may be lacking in emotional intimacy, according to experts.

Without emotional intimacy, your relationship might have a distance to it that you can’t quite pinpoint, almost as if your partner’s true feelings are always at arms’ length.

“[It’s a sign of a lack of emotional intimacy if] you might not know why, but you’re feeling distant and isolated from your partner, [or if] you aren’t talking as much or spending as much time together,” Olivera says. “This distance in relationships can often signal a lack of emotional intimacy, and a need to nourish and nurture the emotional connection that fuels togetherness and connection.” Try asking your partner some questions about the relationship, and see how things grow from there.

2Neither Of You Talk About Your Emotions

A lack of transparency is another big sign that you and your partner haven’t build a solid foundation of emotional intimacy yet in your relationship. You need to be able to talk about your feelings and emotions with one another. “These things are hard to talk about because they require that we practice being vulnerable and transparent,” Olivera say. “[But] when feelings and emotions don’t get talked about, they often come out in different and more problematic ways.” This can build to a habit over arguing or even stonewalling one another.

“Lacking the security and confidence to share your feelings or fearing that your partner will invalidate your feelings is a sign that your relationship is probably lacking emotional intimacy,” Backe says. So start out small, opening up to them about your daily anxieties, and see how they respond

3Or One Of You Shares Way More Than The Other

If one partner shares more than the other, it can be hard to notice that emotional intimacy is lacking. It may just seem like someone’s a good listener. But, experts agree, it offten means that there’s an imbalance.

“This can be a sign that a partner doesn’t feel safe or comfortable expressing themselves openly in the relationship; conversely, it could also mean a partner isn’t creating space for their partner to be open and vulnerable with them,” Olivera explains. So whether you realize that you’re opening up more, or not quite enough, bring up this issue with your partner. It may be possible to resolve on its own.

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